These are the three most frequent complaints coming out of my mouth this summer.
I can’t believe 5 year-old is not in camp.
Are you kidding me, another game tonight??
5 year-old is annoying me.
It’s true, this summer has not gone according to plan. Not that I had a plan, but I wasn’t prepared for baseball averaging five nights a week, and my five year-old putting the kabash on camp for even a few hours each day. On top of that, 8 year-old had some bus issues, so now I’m driving him every morning and either picking him at camp or at a friend’s each afternoon.
There’s a whole lot of schlepping back and forth, a whole lot of laundry and a whole lot of run, run, run! At times, I feel frustrated, stressed and a little overwhelmed. For some reason, I expected summer to be more relaxing, but reality has crushed my expectations.
The truth is my crushed reality is actually a very satisfying, full summer. Yes, I pretty much have seen no friends. Yes, I’ve had very little down time. And, even though, my 5 year-old and I are spending so much quality time together that the word quality is questionable, I can see a day in the not so near future when I am no longer his favorite person. He will not cling to me like this forever. I don’t know if we’ll even make it another year, but I’ll be damned if I’m not going to appreciate this beautiful, bouncy boy constantly tugging annoyingly at my shirt.
Even as my feisty 8 year-old spits fire in my direction, I marvel at his desperate and aggressive need for independence. Plus, the minute he runs out of steam, he happily holds my hand.
While my 11 year-old may ignore me while meditating to a computer game, I live for the goofy grin I get once he recognizes I’ve been trying to reach him from the outside world.
And baseball? Well, despite it being my least favorite major league sport, there’s nothing like watching your kid play. Even if you’re watching with your hands covering your eyes, while gritting your teeth and holding your breath.
So on many summer nights, okay most, I am lounging in my Tommy Bahama chair, an iced coffee in the side drink pocket, surrounded by friendly parents, cheering our kids while our other kids become part of the scenery; having a catch or kicking a ball, or even sometimes, when the slushies are really blue and the pretzels are salty and soft, leaning up against the fence watching their brother play.
I’ve got nothing to complain about.
Your last paragraphs about nights at the baseball field sound exactly like what summer is supposed to be. Glad that it’s turning out well, even if it’s not exactly as you expected it to be. I think maybe I’ll run out now and get a blue slushie 🙂
it is!! i do love it! and i appreciate it all. expect the unexpected… and embrace it. 🙂
Your comments about your 5 year old are spot-on. Whenever I’m getting annoyed by my almost 2 year old, I remind myself that he won’t always want to be held, snuggled, or hold my hand, as he gets more & more independent. He’s definitely my mama’s boy though! Gotta love a mama’s boy, right?!
i always remind myself. it keeps it all in perspective.
You have the best summer attitude ever! Even though I’ve played pro chaffeur this summer, I’ve been loving up my kids & enjoying my time with them more than ever. Grateful.
thank you! i really try and i really appreciate. they’ll be more than enough free time for me soon, and then i’ll be miserable. haha
grateful is the best attitude. i love pro-chaffeur.
I agree with Mary. You have a great attitude and that’s more than half the battle. and who knew that softball was so dang intense?
thank you. it’s all the way you look at things, right? and it’s little league baseball. and it is ridiculously intense.
Oh goodness. I’m so glad mine aren’t in any summer sports! How are you doing this? I couldn’t handle one more thing to take them to. But when school starts, we’ll still both be sad, won’t we?
please, i don’t even want to see my mess when i send on off to kindergarten and the other to middle school. and i meant to write you last week about YW, you should consider linking up if your post works that week. (under 600 wds). it’s fun and your writing is perfect for it.
Maybe you can hold my hand through it sometime. I’m not likely to do it without a push. 😉
you bet! it’s pretty easy. just a simple link up. although, i was a confirmed idiot my first time. 🙂 if you have a post this week or next or whenever, that’s around 500 wds – no more than 600, let me know. link up is tues-wed night and the post needs to have been done, i think that sunday or monday at the earliest. it’s fun. 🙂
What is it with 11 year olds?!?